Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Veronica's Voice , who DO they speak for?

Every now and again I write something that I know will get me in trouble, and by trouble I mean I will offend some person or group of people. I never start out with that intention, okay maybe a few times I started out with that intention, but not this time, I swear. I have this over riding thing in me, that causes me to call booooooolshit, and I'm afraid it's kicked in to full offensive mode. Crime Scene KC linked this announcement regarding a local advocate group for hookers Veronica's Voice. Here's what got me going Veronica's Voice, a local nonprofit that works to end prostitution, will host its second annual Courage To Change walk at 4 p.m. Saturday at St. James Parish, 39th and Troost in Kansas City. Registration starts at 3:30, though that can be done online. Cost is $25 per person in advance, $30 that day. So I clicked over to their site, and here we go.

Veronica's Voice takes the position that Prostitution is pure exploitation, of innocent women and children, by men. The pimps, the Johns, Male Family members who abused the women in the first place, etc. Before I get going, let me state unequivocally the obvious , exploitation of a child is wrong, and should be dealt with by harsh punishment and swift legal action, that's a no brainer. While Veronica's Voice is to be commended for helping under age kids caught up in prostitution, I'll go out on a limb here, and say that underage prostitutes in this area make up a tiny portion of prostitutes. In the last couple of years, one case comes to mind that involved a couple of underage girls, one case. Here's the rub, the people at VV know that the mention of children , the implication that child prostitution is rampant in the city, will elicit a response, in other words it will pay off. Why, because most people dont get misty eyed over some round heeled adult woman who decided to leave her kids and sling her ass to pay for her dope habit.

The TRUTH is most street walkers in the city are well past their teens. The Truth is most call girls are also well past their teens. The truth is while pimps aren't non existent, they dont control the vast majority of hookers in this city. Most hookers in this city are hooked on crack, and you cant smoke crack and work a 9 to 5. You either have to steal, sell dope, or hook. It's no secret that I have a criminal history, and by history I mean I was out there in the part of the city that *L7's* , that's all of you honest, normal, decent folk, who fear or wisely choose not to tread in . So , I have known numerous women , not in the biblical sense, who freely chose to sling their ass for their own gain, of their own volition. I never judged them, still don't , but I do call shit like I see it. And as I see it, Veronica's Voice, the savior and protector of these allegedly abused and misused women of the night, is exploiting the very women they claim to be an advocate for.

Gee MM, you re being kind of harsh, cynical prick. Maybe I am, but let's look at a couple of things before we all jump on yours truly. Would you be more apt to donate money to an organization that helps people who are in fucked up situations due to their own choices, through their own decisions, or someone forced in to what is tantamount to slavery? Would you be more apt to help an organization that assists adult dope fiends or innocent children? No brainer , am I right. Listen, I'm all for someone getting off the streets, cleaning up and living right. I'm the last person in the world who would fault someone for turning it around. What I take exception with is being sold a bill of goods. Most of the women who walk the streets of Kansas City do so because they want to get high. They want to shirk their responsibilities as mothers, they want to chase that dope. It isn't because they are victims. VV likes to throw stats around, most hookers were abused sexually, so that makes them forever victims, gives them a pass. Well most child molesters were sexually abused as well, I dont hear many people suggesting that they should be considered victims.

Here is what got me started on this tirade over Veronica's Voice, they have a fee to participate in their "Courage To Change Walk", 30 bucks as a matter of fact. While I'm all for charitable acts, any time someone tells me I am required to pay a set price, that my charitable contribution must be x amount , then I get a little pissy about it. It's like public TV telling me "We want your help, but your help starts at 30 bucks." So in lieu of money I offer the following tip for turning those women of the night, or day around.
Stop giving them a pass because of their past. Millions of Men and Women have been abused as children, the vast majority of them never sell their services on a street corner or smoke crack.
If you keep telling someone that they are fucked up because of someone else, they will never get right. They will use it as a hole card, every time the fuck up, they will blame it on what transpired 20 or 30 years ago. And not for nothin, but Men aren't the root of all evil when it comes to prostitution. Creepy, yes, perverted, probably, pathetic, you bet, Johns are all of those things, but Johns wouldn't be buying if some woman wasn't selling.

At the end of the day, we all live with the choices we make. You can't preach, threaten or cajole someone in to not doing something they have set their minds to doing. Is it sad that there are women out there who have put a price on their dignity and self worth, yeah it's fucking tragic. And it's equally tragic when we see some wino passed out on a corner, or some kid throw their life away by committing a murder, or.... you get my drift, life is full of tragic stories, and when you really dig down and look at the core of the story, you will find that most people do what they do, because they want to. Think I'm being harsh? Next time you see a hooker on troost or the Avenue, ask her if she wants a job, a real job, waiting tables or whatever, then roll your window up before you get hit in the head with a round heeled shoe.

You can call me a cynic, a long winded one at that, but I've been around long enough to know when someone is slinging bullshit. I'm not saying that VV is a bad organization, I'm not saying they dont help women in bad situations. I am saying that they are using hype and hysteria to sell themselves. I am saying that asking somone to give their time and money is fine, telling them how much they are required to give is, well, it's .....pimpin.

**L7, street term for straight, honest , law abiding folks. Put an L and a 7 together and they make a square, L7****

13 comments:

  1. Thanks for the tip on where to pick up hookers on the cheap.

    As for saying shit that might offend people, well that is something that I try to avoid on my blog :)

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  2. didn't some woman from that outfit argue with you some time ago about one of your posts?

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  3. MM,

    I am with you on this point - "We want your help, but your help starts at 30 bucks." Charging people 25 to 30 bucks to attend a walk to end protitution, how many are going to show up?

    What if, instead of charging people to attend, they actually PAID people to attend? I think we'd see a crowd of folks wanting to "change".

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  4. Thank you for this post MM!!!

    It goes a long way toward busting PC myths around this town!!!

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  5. If there are awards for the best KC post of the year I think the contest just ended.

    Very strong! Nice job.

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  6. Do you get a shirt and a "VV" water bottle?

    I've heard a lot of these fundraising walks raise a lot of money for the outfit that organizes fundraising walks.

    Still, I feel sorry for the people that you talk about, especially the kids that get left behind. It's just a world of sorrow. It's horrible to think about all the sadness that goes on

    :(

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  7. Way to call it like you see it MM. Excellent post and right on the money.

    Like you I applaud VV for providing resources to women who want to quit but I raised an eyebrow when I read on their website that their goal is to eradicate the world's oldest profession. Something tells me that no matter how many laws are passed, desperate women are going to find desperate men who can pay.

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  8. "Charging people 25 to 30 bucks to attend a walk to end prostitution"

    Sounds like they themselves are whores...doesn't it? You can walk with us but it will cost you....just leave the money on the curb..I walk 30 bucks, once around the block that is 50 bucks and if you want to walk all night it is 500 plus a per diem.

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  9. Not all hookers do drugs. I was a hooker, and I never touched drugs. I did it because the money was damned good, and the job was easy, and you know what? I have nobody to blame but myself for a 2 year gap in my resume now that I am looking for a real job. It's kicking me in the ass, but I am dealing with it as best I can. Ladies! If you want out, there is help out there! You DON'T have to keep doing it! I know how addictive the money and the freedom is, but it won't last, and when you look around your heart will be empty, it's not worth it! Reach out, help others!

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  10. I must've missed the part where you explained how a nonprofit raises money without asking/charging for it. For example, there's a run/walk coming in for the Susan J. Komen Foundation. By all counts, virtually the entire public favors this organization. But you know what? The registration fee for their 5K starts at $30.00. I don't hear anyone complaining about that. You may disagree with the mission of Veronica's Voice, but their fee is customary and normal for nonprofits.

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  11. You got it backwards, buddy...if there was no demand, supply would diminish-basic economics.

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  12. Most individuals engaged in prostitution began underage. So all of the "of age" women you see were most likely tricked or coerced into prostitution underage. And because in this country we value the protection of children, underage prostitution is defined as trafficking because it is assumed that children cannot make those decisions for themselves. And once someone enters prostitution, willingly or not, it is extremely difficult for them to leave. The fact that Veronica's Voice advocates for children is not a manipulative ploy but rather a reflection of our country's values. Which you seem to so eloquently articulate. The fact that we only want to help people when we believe they deserve it, such as children. Last time I checked, that is not up to you or anyone else to decide. We are all products of our environment and so before you point a self-righteous finger, consider yourself lucky that you have not felt like you had no other choice but to "make tragic decisions." If your life were different you might have made the exact same choices as the people you condemn. And next time, consider your use of the word "pimpin'" yet another refection of our cultural values rather than YOUR ploy to make your article seem clever. The fact that you can use that word so easily as if you were a teenage boy when you in fact should have "been around long enough" to understand what that word really means. It means Force. Exploitation. Control. Selfishness. Danger. Abuse. Write an article about that, why don't you? Oh wait, you can't because you are clearly not educated about the essence of prostitution or trafficking, their definitions, their causes, or their implications.

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  13. Thank you for being a voice of sanity. I'm actually the founder of the modern day sex trafficking movement. i was witnessing many forms of pimping and trafficking go on - where the victims could not go for help to the police without being arrested or just ignored. When I took a woman who had been stabbed 51 times to the Hillside Strangler Task Force and we gave them their names, their address, where the body shop was, etc. we were thrown out. When I demanded to know why - I was told "because I can't get a warrant based on the word of a whore". The reason for that is because prostitution is a crime therefore in the eyes of the law we're all criminals. So what happens to us is what happens to us in the laws' mind.

    However, some people are truly sold and forced to work against their will. I saw many forms of it. Again, I'd go to the police to help these victims and be ignored.

    So we started our own rescue. The reason why I was dubbed "The High Tech Madam" is for that reason www.hightechmadam.com I got a safe house that I created security for where we could hide out these women from the traffickers who most of the time had local police, FBI or even CIA on their payroll. Google Chris Butler if you want to see what we're up against.

    When I refused to sell women to the CIA during Iran Contra - they arrested me. I couldn't mount my own defense because the men involved were our own government and I was the criminal. I didn't think that was right and started pushing for decriminalization. Because until it's decriminalized - we can't mount a proper defense of our case of being trafficked if witnesses are afraid to come forward for being charged as an accomplice.

    I also pushed for federal recognition so that programs could be set up for real victims who can't be helped at traditional domestic violence shelters for the above reasons. Their pimps show up with badges and guns - and we need a different type of rescue program for us - again one where we can protect ourselves from the law. Look at the recent case of the DEA owned strip club to see exactly what I mean. Where can they run? To the local domestic violence shelter? That agent calls a buddy, they show a badge - and she's gone. If they deport her back to Colombia - the drug lords will kill her the minute she lands back in the country. So where does she go? Which is why despite us having federal recognition - we have a long way to go.

    Because the movement got hijacked. It's been hijacked by frauds and con artists like Samoly Mam. It's been hijacked by police departments who aren't getting terrorist money for their budgets - so they claim they're going to "set up a trafficking task force" where they pocket the money and then do bumpkiss for the real victims. I know because I'm still helping them despite other people getting a lot of money to help them.

    In Sex Workers Anonymous - I saw a lot of what I dubbed "post prostitution syndrome" which is like a dry drunk for an alcoholic. In other words, acting like a hooker without being on a corner. Some hookers were hookers because they didn't want to work - and they wanted some john to pay their bills for them. They gave him a sob story - and they get a rent check.

    Notice anything similar here?

    Do you know why Sex Workers Anonymous doesn't have "safe houses"? Because we teach our members to GET JOBS and get THEIR OWN HOMES. Being financially independent - now that's recovery. Setting up a home where they sit around crying about how everyone wronged them and cut me a check to pay my bills - well we'd consider that a relapse.

    www.sexworkersanonymous.com

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